Emotional Release - Techniques for Spiritual Recovery from Emotional Trauma and
When we become willing to see and admit our wrongs, even willing to see something wrong with our attitude, the process of repentance can begin. Repentance is a process of seeing our wrong, being sorry, mourning, realizing forgiveness, letting go of baggage, and being grateful for being forgiven.
When a person is willing to forgive, often because they have been willing to see their own wrong, then their attitude changes. With a humble polarity, the soul is no longer compatible with or in need of angry bitter memories to hang onto. These memories that came about in moments of resentment and judgment now no longer serve any purpose.
By our willingness to forgive others, our Heavenly Father is also willing to forgive us. And when He does, we find it easier to turn around and forgive others.
Most of us have rarely known forgiveness. All we have experienced is blame. Most of us have never experienced love. All we’ve known is consoling comfort and distraction or the sympathy of others. Such consolation and sympathy cannot help you get better. We even resent such consolation because we sense its falsity and the temptation in it.
But once we respond to God’s (at first chastising) love with repentance and joy, we then become aware of His forgiveness. Once we know that love exists and we experience it first hand, it is easier for us to stop hating and judging others.
In God’s Light of Truth, we see the wrong of hating others, judging them and holding a grudge against them. From that point on, whenever we see a memory where we had resented someone or judged them, we realize the error and let go of the sustaining resentment. Soon the memory is also gone.
It is in this way that after the seed change of attitude, we see our errors one by one and they melt away.
I doubt if anyone can truly see their wrong attitude unless the Light of Truth shines in their soul and they are open to its admonishments. Otherwise, the prideful person goes from cradle to the grave, ever looking for self justification.
Death is inevitable result of pride and sin. And so are the preconditions to death that are set up by our pridefulness.
Of course, it is better to eat healthy food than unhealthy food. It is better to live a moral lifestyle than an immoral one. It is better to be calmer than to be upset. It is better to be amicable than hostile. It is better to live within the bounds of propriety, modesty and moderation than to engage in risky practices.
But ultimately, something more is needed.
Good food cannot save you. Healthy common sense living may help you to live longer, but living longer is only of value if it gives you time to repent, find the purpose of your existence and search for the secret of life. Nothing can save you other than a return to the faith of the innocent—a reliance and trust in God that begins with a willingness to be chastised and humbled.
an excerpt from Roland's new book on complementary integrated recovery strategies for emotional trauma