How Do I Stay Calm? Stress Management For Sincere People Everywhere
It's hard to express faith and patience when we are upset. It's hard to be forgiving when we are angry. It is hard to express love when we are resentful. Therefore, I have come to the inescapable conclusion that if we could learn to remain calm and not upset and resentful in the moment of stress--we can be better Christians. Resentment, anger and upset block love and patience.
We all know that we are supposed to be reasonable, forgiving and patient. But it is hard to do so when under pressure. For example, the Christian learns wonderful Biblical principles in church, Sunday school, or listening to Christian radio, but when under stress, we become upset or angry. The Jewish person, the Hindu, the Buddhist also learn about forgiveness, harmony, and kindness. But when under stress, they too become upset.
Let's face it: we all become upset too easily!
When we become upset, we then often say the wrong thing or feel the wrong thing (resentment). Then we escape into thinking, where we try to rearrange the past, excuse our failing, or worry and scheme about the future.
When we keep failing to apply the principles that we love, we become frustrated and angry at ourselves. But all this does is add another layer of upset.
The answer is to learn how to respond properly to stress (by not responding at all), instead of reacting and becoming upset. And if we don't become upset in the first place, we won't say or do the wrong thing in the second place.
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At the Center For Common Sense Counseling, we teach the "how" of remaining patient and more forgiving. By learning the simple technique of how to remain centered and calm, we are pre-armed with Godly grace.
It is anger and upset that wash away patience and reason. In other words, we can learn how to hang onto our patience by not becoming upset. We can hang onto a forgiving attitude by not letting stress sneak up on us and render us judgmental.
It is spiritual discipline that we need. But not the type that comes from suppressing anger, or putting on a good face with seething resentment underneath. It is the discipline of learning how to get centered and then from that calm center of dignity clearly seeing our need for patience.
When the stressful situation arrives (often involving a delicate moment with our spouse, parent, or child), we meet the moment with grace, instead of reacting with upset and coming unglued.
In simple terms, if we could learn the secret of not getting upset, we can be better parents, spouses, neighbors, employees and bosses.
The Center For Common Sense Counseling is a nondenominational radio and internet outreach to all people. Roland has no organization to join or belong to. His mission is to awaken us to our conscience and what we know in our hearts, and then he wishes to offer a few tips on how to stay in touch with that good by not becoming upset or resentful.
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